This is our story....of love, life, and adoption

Sunday, October 08, 2006

Don't tell me...

  1. that I want a baby so badly that it kills me because..
    yes I do and a statement like that hurts.
  2. Don't tell me that we are crazy for wanting a baby so badly because..
    we are NOT crazy, you just don't appreciate the children you have!!
  3. Don't tell me that it's not that you don't appreciate your children, but that you just
    appreciate your free time more because...
    quite frankly I think that's sad.... for your children.
  4. Don't tell me to appreciate our free time while we have it because...
    we've had our free time and at this point in our lives we want to share our time with a
    child!!!! I'm sorry that you don't see it that way.
  5. Don't tell me that you don't understand why we are in such a hurry to have children because..
    if 4 years of trying to have a baby is in a hurry...well bite me!!
  6. Don't tell me that we'll get pregnant after we adopt because...
    although it would be nice, it takes away from our adoption NOW, as if getting
    pregnant would be somehow nicer, better than adopting now.
  7. Don't tell me that we can have one of your children..
    because quite frankly We would probably do a better job of raising them and if you
    tempt me long enough, I will. WE have an approved homestudy, ya know.

    Sometimes people just don't get it. Why not try....
    "I'm excited for you two...It must be hard, you've been through a lot...It's going to be amazing, I can't wait for you two to be parents....I'm here for you....You're going to love it...."

    Okay I'm done with my Sunday's out, but just a day one of these statements is going to make me snap...And I'm so NOT going to be nice about it!!


MAMB said...

Ditto what you said. All of it.

island girl said... hurt for you. i'm so proud of you and jon for moving forward and doing what's right for the 2 of you!

Connie said...

That is one perfectly stated rant, my budette! Right there with ya!

Rhonda said...

AMEN SISTER. I loved this post.

Laurel said...

I love this! Too funny. You should also add, "So, when are you going to travel?"

(We traveled to Ukraine and adopted two little girls this past spring!)


Anonymous said...

I liked this post. It helps you get off what's on your chest and helps other's understand how things can come across the wrong way, even if it's not meant to. You and Jon are going to be wonderful parents to your lil man/lady. I still think it's going to be a boy too.

TaiwanMommy said...

Ya know, Annie-Bananie, those idiots will always be out there.

"Doing this AGAIN at 40, what? Are you nuts?"

"Who is your psychologist?"

"Three children? You really are a crazy broad.."

and then, there is the other crew. You come home, you're tired, you're emotionally beat, you've exhausted everybit of yourself...

"Poor babies.. must be rough"

"Well, YOU had a chioce in this, they didn't!"

etc etc.

When you come home and want to pull out your hair, I promise to listen and feel sorry for YOU.

I'm sorry poopoo heads are dogging you now.


Melissa said...

I hear you. Especially the one about patience. Arrggg!

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

You spoke for so many of us with this post. I was ready to reach and touch someone yesterday ( and not in a warm fuzzy way) when they asked if I had thought about trying Russia instead of China since China is taking so long.Hello Sunshine, my child is in China are you saying you want us to abandon her....arghhhh.
Thank you and Good night.

malou said...

Totally agree with this Ann!

Anonymous said...

People can be just plain STUPID or insensitive or just plain STUPID! I have my fingers crossed for you that you will have your referral very soon. I know what a great mom you will be!!!!

(mom to Judson, Sawyer, and Ansley)

Annie said...

I love number 7

jeneflower said...

That number 5 would make me VERY upset. We get a version of that- Why would you want to adopt IF you can have a bio child? It makes me furious inside. A bio child is not better than an adopted child. They are both children and they are both yours and they are both wonderful.

Tammy said...

Oh, Ann, I can relate to many of the comments and feelings. I think of you all the time and hope your referral comes very soon.

Hang in there.

Anonymous said...

I can relate most to your frustration at the comment, "You'll get pregnant as soon as you adopt." We got that comment ALL the time and of all the idiotic things people said, that one was one of ones that made me grit my teeth the hardest. (The only worse one was the jerks (aquaintances) who would say, "Why aren't you adopting an AMERICAN baby, instead...there are lots of babies here that need homes!" That comment topped them all, in my book.

(noticed you on Taiwan Mommy's blog.)