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Thursday, August 03, 2006

Lesson #240: if you don't ask, they'll tell!!!


We received an email newsletter update on the Taiwan program. So I've decided I'm just not going to read my email anymore!!! They wanted us to be aware that the time frame for Taiwan referrals has lengthened. Knew that. So they are letting us know that as a result, some adoptive families in the Taiwan program will have to update their Home Study and CIS(immigration) approvals. Okay, so I knew this, but I sure don't like seeing it in writing. Jon is upset even though we knew this was a possibility. But it looks like it is more than a possibility now. I'd also like to know why our fingerprints expire next June, but our I171h doesn't expire until November of next year('07). It doesn't make any sense. So I called the agency to ask a few questions. Jon and I decided we would just redo these things at the end of January and eat the cost. But I find out from our agency that we CAN'T redo our fingerprints before 1month from expiration. So if we get our referral in March(12 months of waiting) and we wait 4-6 months for the court process obviously our fingerprints will expire, but we won't be able to redo them until May. Now it takes a couple of months to process the fingerprints, putting us in the possiblity of having to wait to travel because of our freakin' fingerprints. Which is what we wanted to avoid by redoing it all in January. Can you sense our frustration? Supposidly there is a bill in congress right now trying to change all this, allowing our I171H forms to be valid for a longer period of time. It seems that all programs(countries) are running into this problem because the referral wait is increasing all around. ARGGGGGGHHHH!!! I just wish that once, just once things would go easily for us. The woman that I spoke with at our agency was so sweet and very nice, bless her heart. But this is very frustrating. At the end of the letter our agency sent it said :" At times the wait and additional paperwork may seem overwhelming and frustrating, but please know, you wil soon be bringing home your bundle of joy...sincerley..."
I know this, really I do. And I know that in the end it will all be worth it, but I just want it to go smoothly for once, just once.

18 comments:

Connie said...

Ann - It just SUCKS! I know exactly what you are going through and it makes ZERO logical sense. But, I found I had to abandon a lot of logic when working with government regulations.

I keep saying (and I know it will be true) that it will all be worth it in the end but, c'mon already, there is little common sense in the government expirations currently.

Lucia, Adam, Noah and Camille said...

You have every right to be frustrated. This situation sucks! Hopefully that bill in Congress will pass and prevent other adoptive families from having to worry about this scenario. I am still keeping my fingers crossed for you guys and hoping you will get your referral sooner rather than later. The good news is that the court processes have become much shorter than they were a year ago, it seems that way especially for the Cathwel cases so that is something good to focus on. So sorry you had to get both of these e-mails so close together.

Mary said...

I feel for you sweetie... just keep thinking that little bundle of joy is waiting at the end of the tunnel... until then I have a 16 year old you can borrow if you want.. LOL

I know it's tough! I've been thinking of you guys everyday and hoping it happens soon. What a party it will be when it does happen

Mary said...

I feel for you sweetie... just keep thinking that little bundle of joy is waiting at the end of the tunnel... until then I have a 16 year old you can borrow if you want.. LOL

I know it's tough! I've been thinking of you guys everyday and hoping it happens soon. What a party it will be when it does happen

island girl said...

it totally sucks and it's totally frustrating...but you know what...you'll do it. you will go through all of that frustration, because it's what you HAVE to do, to get the baby you want. And that's what this is all about!

mIcHeLlE-o said...

You're in my thoughts Ann. Thinking of you and praying that you find a good way to handle this. ( H U G S )

kiwintaiwan said...

Ann , I know this doesnt help but when you have them home you do forget the wait. We waited 18mths for Jesse and then took 8 months in the court (because we delayed it dont panic) but it does happen and it WIll happen. I know how you feel but hang on in there we are all there for you guys. I wish I could make it happen faster. Hugs to you both you are doing well
Rhonda

malou said...

Oh, I'm so sorry, Ann. All I can offer is prayer for you at this time of frustration. I am praying for you and Jon. Malou

Rhonda said...

I can tell you this...the fingerprints expiring and the homestudy update happened to us. We had to re-do our homestudy and get new fingerprints, along with a new I-171H. It went SO smoothly. One quick meeting with the social worker and the homestudy update was done. The fingerprints took very little time, and the I-171H arrived quickly. The expenses were the only pain. I worried about it a lot, but it wasn't a big thing...hope that helps :)

Stacey said...

Hi Ann,

I am so sorry to hear about the extension of the wait time in Taiwan! I will pray that you will be busy these next months so that time will fly by! If you do need to be fingerprinted again - I hope that they process it quick. I don't think we had to wait very long for the I171H to come after fingerprints. good luck!

Sandra said...

Hey sorry to hear about the extended wait. It sucks. I was just asking Larry why it all has to be so hard. Hang in there

The Rasmussen's said...

Hang in there -- your turn is coming. Vent away we are here to listen!!!

Kelly
who has been there done that

jeneflower said...

It IS so frustrating. Especially when I talk to people who completed their adoption in like 5 months start to finish. There are just too many factors out of our control. All we can do is keep turning out the paperwork when we are told and keep handing over the money. Hopefully, we will completely forget this whole process when we bring our kids home.

NikkiNix said...

You could still be jabbing your arse with IVF needles babe... at least you KNOW the little bundle is coming ;)

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