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Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Why do I ask?



I don't know why I feel compelled to ask our agency as if I didn't know the answer. But I told myself that I would ask at 12 months. We knew that the wait was going to be longer, but I had to ask. Why Ann, why do you feel the need to ask? So I asked our agency what a realistic expectation would be for our wait now. Yes in some small place in my heart I was hoping they would tell me "any day now". But nope...We were told 18 months is the average now. She also went on to tell me that some families are getting the referral sooner, and some later, but the average is 18 months. She must have known that I'm not good with the numbers thing. Yes, I know what "average" means. So again they have tacked on a couple of months. I just hope the wait doesn't keep getting longer. The way it is now, if we wait the 18 months we may not have our child by the end of this year. And if we wait longer, we definately won't have our child by the end of the year. I'm just saying this now...if we don't have a referral by Christmas I'm NOT putting up a tree!! Yes I know my faith is being tested...I know my patience is being tested. As I sit here that song, keeps popping into my head, you know which one..."I get knocked down, but I get up again..."

16 comments:

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

I totally understand. If I hear one more , You'll get there or it won't be long now I swear I will barf!

Jennifer "Jenny" said...

I know Ann. It really stinks!

Doris & Dan said...

It does suck! Words can help when you are down like this. It feels like forever. I wish I could give you a hug! Patience is a virtue that I was not given. So I empathise with you.

Take it day by day. That is all we can do to get to the end.

Keep smilin!

malou said...

Just keep your head up, girl. Your dearest wish will come true it may seem that you think it's longer now but think I remember all the countdowns I have been through w/you and now you are at 12 months, it seems like it went by fast.

Andrea said...

Not much to say except I'm sorry
:( I wish I could make the wait disappear. I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

marina said...

Can you switch agancies or countries? That seems unfair that they didn't let you know before you called them. I would be very discouraged, and actually, mad.

Anonymous said...

I'm with you. Waiting SUCKS! I say we start an 'ornament' drive. Everyone send you an ornament for the 2007 tree. I predict it will be your biggest tree ever!

Jan

Legaleagle said...

It makes me sick that people like Angelina Jolie can adopt a baby in less than 3 days and it takes good people who want to raise a child (not collect them) so long to get their referrals. And, by the way, I think the next line in that song is "you're never gonna keep me down."

C.J. said...

I feel ya girl! I just hope I'm not having a second Christmas without a tree and that may very well come true.

It is what it is...and sometimes it just stinks terribly!

Legaleagle said...

Ann! After the whole "Buckman Bridge" incident at Cori's house that one night, I have no secrets!

Sherry said...

My heart just dropped reading this post. I cant believe the average is 18 mo til ref!!! Plus its ridiculous that the way you found out about that number is by calling the agency yourself! (Makes me mad!) Im so sorry that your adoption has been such a long one so far...but you seem to be thinking on the positive:) I just hope that the agency doesnt change their timeline again on you...it sucks having to hear discouraging news:( Im so sorry...you can take Kobi for a while if you like:)

Dianna said...

Chumba Wumba (totally NOT spelled correctly) is always good background music for days like this. I hope you hear news soon and are on the shorter side of that 18 month average.

Annie said...

Aww Ann, I'm really hoping and praying that you have a shorter than average wait time. I hate the ever increasing wait.

Melissa said...

It never hurts to ask. Keep on truckin' I am rooting for you!

amy said...

Im praying for all my waiting friends

PromiseKeepersDaughter said...

I hear ya, I asked our agency the same thing just today infact. I really didn't want to accept their answere (24) but they did add a little hope in saying that the CCAA progress-through-LIDs rate tends to change over longer periods and not to fixate on that #. It's not much but it is something.