Yesterday was the birthfamily meeting. It was not what I expected. I thought it would be very emotional for me but it wasn't. I thought that I would feel this strong connection to this woman that gave me her child, but strangely I didn't. I felt like the meeting was for them, so that they would find some peace with the decision for Claire. They said they were surprised how comfortable Claire was with us after only a few days. That made me feel good, b/c she is very comfortable with us. She is already bonding to us and I was happy that they could see that. The birthgrandfather seemed the most concerned asking us many questions. I also thought that I would be the one that spoke a lot, but surprisingly it was Jon. I don't know if I was reserved b/c I know that she is ours and maybe in some recess of my mind I was protecting that. I don't know. But Jon wanted to make sure that they knew that we would love her and protect her. I think that after the meeting they knew that. We decided before we came that we would not post photos of her birthfamily to keep their privacy.
We also got to meet Jenn's little boy William. Cathwel set it up so he was there and we got to spend some time with him. Claire got her first kiss from a boy!! So sweet the two of them together. Anyhow, we're getting the routine down, learning about our daughter. She remains a very good baby. Nighttime is a little bit of challenge. She is one of those babies that fight to stay awake even when she's exhausted, so we're trying to figure that one out. Enjoy the pics
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I just want to reach through this screen and hug you! I am so happy for you guys!
Eli is almost 4 and still fights sleep. He doesn't want to miss a single moment of anything that might be going on around him.
Claire is just beautiful and you all look perfect together.
You're the first person I've known to post birth family details like this- that it was less emotional than expected. In some way, that helps me. Because, while I'm a very emotional person, I have this feeling that I will be like you describe. Who really knows until you go through it (if I have this opportunity), but I have such a peace about it... which you have- a complete peace that Claire is where she should be! And you are the best mommy and daddy that this sweet little girl could hope for! The pictures are gorgeous- she looks sooooo comfortable and at ease already. Praying you get the rest you need, and that she works out the sleep issues. Although, with the time difference, working it out on Taiwan time is not really the goal, is it? Hopefully US time will be "magic" and she'll have no issues once home!
It is going to be so important later that you met them. I keep a picture of my son's birthfamily on his bedroom wall. I will always include her story in my son's life. Glad it went well.
so happy to hear all is going well and that claire is so comfortable with you! she's a beauty....keep posting those photos!!!
Anne,
I am not at all surprised by your feelings. I think that there is probably a percentage of every feeling towards birth parents. I remember that even though I didn't get to meet Jer's birthmom, just looking at the pictures made me feel the way you did. BUT with Jo's birthmom I am totally opposite. I know way more about their story and reasonings though and I felt connected to her from day one. So, I attribute my new found feelings to that. Everyone has a "hard reason" for their adopting their child out, but I am afraid that NOT every reason is one that touches everyone. I hope that makes sense. Anyways, you guys did wonderfully and you have that memory for her when she is ready.
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